4 Fears New Moms Have & What The Bible Says About Them

I can say from experience that there is no other transition like the one of becoming a new mom. Your entire world is changed. You have a little baby to learn how to care for, you have a ton of very powerful hormones running rampage in your body, and you have to figure out how to deal with it all basically overnight. It’s a lot! Plenty of room for fear, doubts, and anxiety to creep in. But what we can easily forget in those very dark middle-of-the-night moments is that we were created for this exact thing. God designed our bodies for this specific act, becoming a mother. Surely, we can’t screw up something our bodies were made for right? What better time to look and see what the Bible says about those fears and doubts?

It might not feel natural at first, and you may feel very overwhelmed in those first weeks but with time, we learn. Just like with anything else we have never done before, we adapt, we shift and we push forward. This post is for me, just as much as it is for any other new mom out there freaking the heck out! Let’s take all these fears and doubts and reaffirm ourselves with what the Bible says instead of the internet. Or that mean girl on social media (or in your head).

Am I Doing Everything Wrong

Unfortunately, there is no one-size-fits-all when it comes to babies. Something that absolutely saved your friend’s life with her newborn, might not work for yours at all. You can read all the books, articles, blogs, and message boards to prepare and your little one still might throw you for a loop! It happens to us all! There is one book that will never lead you astray, the Bible. Philippians 4:7 says “And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus.”

At the end of the day, you have a motherly instinct that can help you through any trial. I am not saying that the answer to your struggle will immediately come to mind every time. But God did create you for this. He gives us the tools we need to succeed in all that He has called us to do, including raising our babies. It can come down to a matter of if we choose to listen to our hearts and the voice of God, or to the internet. Turning to the Bible is always a good idea!

“Do not fear, for I am with you; do not be afraid, for I am your God. I will strengthen you; I will help you; I will hold on to you with my righteous right hand. “ Isaiah 41:10. It can be easy to get out priorities mixed up when we had children in the mix. We can start to idolize them or even put ourselves on the back burner. One of the best things we can bring into motherhood is spending time with Jesus every day. It may not look how it used to. It may not be hours of sitting quietly, praying, and studying but that doesn’t make it any less powerful. 5 minutes while you rock the baby to sleep, talk to God. Jumping in the shower while your MIL tends to the baby, turn on some worship music, and ground yourself in His truth.

Don’t have the time or energy for a full-on Bible study right now, get some scripture cards and tape them up all over the house to get you through the day. Things will get easier and you will become more confident through His truths! “This book of instruction must not depart from your mouth you are to meditate on it day and night so that you may carefully observe everything written in it. For then you will prosper and succeed in whatever you do. Haven’t I commanded you: be strong and courageous? Do not be afraid or discouraged, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go”. Joshua 1:8-9

How Will I Know How To Parent

Everyone has an opinion on the “right” way to parent. And to each their own. But the biggest factor in this is that every child is different. We all are born with different personalities and uniqueness. That was on purpose by our Father. So when it comes to parenting, we have to turn to our God for guidance because we were not meant to do this life alone and that includes parenting. No one is an expert at anything the first time they do it. “Therefore don’t worry about tomorrow, because tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.”. Matthew 6:34

Why can it be so easy to trust that God will make the Earth spin and the air in our lungs return but we can’t let go of our hold on things like our children? We can trust Him with simple things but when it comes to making the right choice for our kids we forget to include Him in the process. He should be your number one person on your sounding board. Open the Bible and see what He has to say about it.

“For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but one of power, love and sound judgment.”. 2 Timothy 1:7

I Can’t Stop Comparing Myself To Other Moms

Wow, the comparison game gets way more intense once you become a mom! The mom shaming, judging, excluding, and hating is absolutely ridiculous and no one can prepare you for it. Whether it is comparing your body to others, your child’s behavior to others, your child’s development to others, or what you feed your child to others, it can drive you absolutely insane if you let it! “So we do not focus on what is seen, but on what is unseen. For what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal.” 2 Corinthians 4:18

Turn your eyes to the Lord, not to others around you! Worry about the advice your God gives you, not the newest trend. Treat your body as the wonderous creation that God made, and don’t shame it because it is not how it once was. Love your children where they are, not where the world tells you they should be by now. “Iron sharpens iron, and one person sharpens another.” Proverbs 27:17 Surround yourself with people who will guide you and mentor you to turn to God. People who will build you up and encourage you. Be protective and wise about your community. Fill your mind with the truth from the Bible!

Can I Do The Hard Things

With bringing a little one into the world comes a lot of hard work and stretching ourselves to the very max. We are sleep deprived, our body becomes not just our own, the possible tension in our marriages, the list can go on! While all of this can be growing pains, it still feels like a mountain to climb and can be very isolating! We tend to stay cooped up in the house, barely shower and go into survival mode. “And let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up.” Galatians 6:9

Do not fret! There is a light at the end of the tunnel! Your baby will sleep longer than 30 minutes one day, you will stop breastfeeding one day and get your body back for yourself, you will find a new groove with your husband, and you will adjust. Having trouble seeing the blessings in this hard time? Try writing them down. When you are rocking your baby, list your blessings in your mind. Draw your strength from the Lord, remember what He says about you! “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare, and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope” Jeremiah 29:11

I hope that this has brought you some encouragement. I know how hard this big life transition can be and when we turn in the right direction, it can make a world of difference! Know I am always just a message away! You’ve got this mama!